There are a lot of things that we are taught in life, but the one thing we are never really taught is how to be in a healthy, happy and productive relationship and stay committed. It is almost like we assume that just because we found that someone special that we are interested in; that things in our relationship should just work out. But, the truth of the matter is that there is more to a relationship than just physical and sexual attraction, and like anything that we want to be successful at a relationship, moreover a marriage takes continuous work and commitment on the part of both of the individuals.
Deep down we all have a desire to love and be loved, but we may not know how to go about it. For most of us we learn how to be in relationships from our parents and the other people in our immediate circle. If we see drama, jealousy, abuse, lying, or cheating displayed then we assume that that is what people do in relationships, but I tell you friends it doesn’t have to be that way. To achieve the relationship that you desire is really all in the level of commitment. Not just the commitment to another person but a commitment to yourself to have a great relationship, and a commitment to God to make it work as vowed. Just because you see something doesn’t meant that, that it is the way things should be. What matters is what feels good to you and what make you feel good, do that which works for your relationship, or your marriage, and stop by all means comparing yourselves to others. Everything is not what it seems, and the grass definitely isn’t greener on the other side. You have no clue what is going on in another persons relationship or marriage, people only allow you to see what they want you to see. Trust me, there is no perfect marriage or relationship, all relationships and marriages are works in progress…
To have the right relationship first starts with finding that someone that you are of course attracted to, that you also connect with on a deeper level, someone that you have shared interest with, as well as common goals and beliefs. But, what really makes a relationship successful is mutual love and respect for each other. It is about being fearless, and not worrying about the what if’s, and the what could possibly go wrong, or giving up when things get tough, but committing to working at making your relationship or marriage the best it can possibly be. That starts with being loving, kind, thoughtful, and considerate towards your partner. It is about giving exactly what it is you claim to want – which is love. Love through the good times and the challenging times. Are you committed in your relationship? Are you committed?
