Communications

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In today’s world of cell phones, texting and e-mail it is easy for the true meaning of our words to get lost in translation. Although most of us make more of an effort to communicate with our convenient gadgets, although we still haven’t learned how to truly communicate with each other. As a marital Counselor and minister of the gospel, I have found that through several retreats, seminars, workshops, and conferences that people have a problem communicating with each other; this has been especially true with pre-marital and married couples alike.

Is it because of our fears or maybe our lack of sincerity that we hide behind technology? Do we use technology as a means to protecting or safeguarding our hearts? Do we use technology as an escape goat to get out of a relationship?

The hard reality is that there is nothing like a good old fashion face to face conversation where you hope both parties are telling the truth, but even if they aren’t you have a better chance of reading the other person when you are looking directly into there eyes. Your gift of discernment will kick in, if you use it. That sixth sense will show up and you will know what is going on with the other person.

It can be hard to put yourself out there, so easily exposed to someone else. None of us like rejection and we are all trying to protect our hearts on some level. In Relationships especially new relationships you are always learning and growing and sometimes you don’t trust your instincts. Each day brings new adventures as well as challenges. So, communication of all kinds is important. As long as what you have to say comes from your heart than you shouldn’t fear expressing your feelings and making sure that you are properly understood. This is especially important in marriage, both partners need to communicate their feels at all times It is easy to hope that someone can read between the lines and understands our cryptic messages, smiley faces, and gestures, and body language but there is nothing like spitting out plain direct verbal communication to really get your point and your feelings across to another person. Although I advise you to use discretion when communicating with your spouse, we have to watch our words, tones, etc, and make sure that as we open the doors of communication we don’t shut the doors to someone’s heart. How do you communicate?